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Natalie Catherine's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing all of this Lauren. I relate to so much of what you've explored and I know so many women will too. Our stories have such a pull don't they, but it's so incredible when we get to see them for what they are; just stories. Like you, I am also navigating (all over again) where I'm being overly influenced by the wellness field with a new diagnosis and not trusting the wisdom of my own body. I think the questions you pose are so potent and important. What if we are scared to step into the fullness of our vitality? Maybe we're all a little bit scared of our own power? And I also have an open head :) Sometimes I really dont want to be online at all and secretly wish social media didnt exist ;) Here's to remembering the wisdom in our bones and allowing ourselves to just BE a lot more ❤️

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Here's to remembering indeed!! A constant daily practice of reclamation! The questions I think are the most potent to sit with, because there is a sense of safety in so many ways in staying with the stories... they are familiar afterall even if we don't like them. The open head is a fun one to navigate isn't it?? So many ideas and so much juicy inspiration but also that can be totally overwhelming. So grateful for your comments and thoughts here lovely. Definitely walking a similar path right now. xxx

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Sarah-Elizabeth's avatar

Thank you so much for your vulnerability Lauren, just beautiful 🙏🏻 I'm observing similar states in my own being that I need to rescript - I'm broken from my dysfunctional upbringing, I'm going to be afraid of putting myself out there forever, I'm going to mess up Mothering, I could go on... All fictions of the mind. Currently very interested in narrative therapy, becoming aware of how enmeshed we are with story on the most fundamental levels. Looking forward to your devotional next week too, thank you for your work Lauren 🙏🏻

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Thank you so much for reading and being here lovely, I too am so curious about the narratives and how addicted we really are to these stories and patterns. I can see why on some levels as I begin to explore what it might mean if I was to longer be tangled up with them, but also they are so stifling and suffocating in so many ways. Very grateful for this comment, definitely makes me feel a lot less alone with it. I can't wait to share this week with you too. xxx

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Ashley Zuberi's avatar

Thank you for sharing Lauren! What resonated for me was your acceptance of being in this “liminal space of becoming.” I was very fortunate to take a yoga nidra weekend training with Uma Dinsmore-Tuli and Yoli Maya Yeh this past weekend and I got the sense from many of the nidra practices that I was floating on what I can only describe as the cosmic ocean of the universe, like Vishnu on his snake. I wasn’t sure what to make of that until reading your piece and realizing that I’m in that in-between space, awaiting rebirth 🙂

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Ooooh how beautiful to be in a space with Uma, she really is so incredible. I have always wanted to do one of her nidra trainings... one day (added to the ever evolving list of dream trainings). What a powerful vision you had, and so beautifully interpreted in this sense of liminal space... there is both a comfort and discomfort I find in this in between space. Hope but also uncertainty. Thank you so much for reading and being here to share your voice. xxx

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Ashley Zuberi's avatar

There is a new training coming up in October they just announced—10-12–on yoni nidra specifically for women’s health you might enjoy! I’m going to try and do that one too. They’re online and only 4 hours each day so I found it doable (plus the time change worked for us in the States).

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Oooooh I am going to investigate… would be super fun to do together. Although I don’t think I should be encouraged to do more trainings… I can’t seem to stop! Ha! xx

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Ashley Zuberi's avatar

Tell me about it, lol. It would be super fun to do together and I totally get it about having to put limits on trainings haha.

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Louise Hallam's avatar

Another beautiful peace Lauren that I can relate to. I think the thing that echos again is who are we if we aren't broken? What happens the day we feel fixed? What are the patterns that keep us from that place, because we want to distance ourselves from what we might discover? Love your new studio, a new chapter, love the work of Dr Joe Dispenza, he makes so much sense of a lot of things.

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Thank you Louise, and yes to those questions... what does it mean if we don't have those stories? How might we be viewed in the world? What might be possible? So much of that is what I am sitting with and questioning if I can be brave enough to challenge the broken narrative that keeps so many of us in the same place. I really have been enjoying his approach, I would like to find some slightly more poetic meditations to work with I think but the approach is truly full of hope and inspiration. xxx

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Louise Hallam's avatar

I completely understand coming from that place of 'what if?' Lauren. I've never listened to his meditations, I know he can lean to the side of science and medicine, I found his book Becoming Supernatural resonated with a lot of what I understand about energy. xx

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Oooh I haven’t read that one but I like the idea of that one so maybe that is to listen to next. xx

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Kerry Hinns's avatar

I resonated with so many aspects of this piece Lauren, thank you so much for sharing so openly.

I also had a moment recently where friends have said that I “look well” and I noticed that I eagerly brush comments like that aside. But what if they’re not just saying that and they actually mean it?? It’s like I’m afraid to own and step into my strength and radiance.

Such an interesting topic and lots to consider 🤍

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Lauren Barber's avatar

YES... that fear of stepping into our radiance and strength... because what would that mean? How might that make others see us? Are we allowed to feel that way? So much I have been curiously exploring too. Thank you for sharing your resonance. xxx

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Kelly Hargie's avatar

Lauren, thank you for this open and honest piece. I related to so much of what you shared. A lot of vulnerability and wisdom here dear one 🙏 💖

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Thank you Kelly, so grateful for you witnessing me here. We are not broken. xxx

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Gary Coulton's avatar

Hi Lauren,

Yours was one of the posts I saved recently, until I had quality time to read. I revere people who tell their story openly and keenly. There are many areas where our lives follow similar paths and your positivity in the face of persistent adversity is heartening.

May I say you are a wonderful example of someone who leaves their "Positive Echo" wherever they go. It may not be always nice or pretty but it is true and generous.

Cheers

Gary

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Thank you for these reflections Gary, I truly appreciate it.

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Gary Coulton's avatar

Hi Lauren,

You’re very welcome.

Every Tuesday on “The Positive Echo” I showcase a “Featured Guest” post.

Please check out what I’m trying to do with my Substack, and if you feel you have an existing post or a new one that aligns, and you’d like to be featured, let me know.

I upload your post with you front and centre and you tagged with additional links to your Substack.

I also upload a Note before and after, bringing attention to your post. I also, restack each upload.

You broaden your reach, and I get to leave another “Positive Echo”.

Best wishes

Gary

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Mackenzie's avatar

“The world is telling me (and selling to me) stories about my brokenness. And if the thoughts I think are fuelled by an inner story that I constantly need to fix myself, then what am I feeding by staying in spaces that reinforce this through their messaging?” This… 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Shout it from the rooftops!! So good, Lauren 🙌🏼

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Thank you for reflecting this sentence to me, I really need to constantly remember it! xxx

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Emma Del Rey's avatar

Your studio space is giving me visions for myself, it is beautiful. I hope to some day come visit and share space with you in it. I resonated with so much of this and I need to go think about a similar story I am carrying around about my own brokenness, I know it is not true but I can see how it runs my life.

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Oh what a vision to hold for us lovely! Will definitely hold the image of that in my heart. I think these stories we know on some level aren't true but the deeper parts of us are so wedded to them it is very, very hard to disentangle from them. Thank you always for reading and witnessing my words. xxx

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Amy Jae's avatar

Your new space is gorgeous and the words that you just wrote in it are powerful. I resonated with so many of your thoughts about health and pushing away the possibility of being truly well. It seems like we expect perfection which is probably not possible as a human for more than a few seconds at a time! Thank you for this reminder to embrace the vision that we want. I am going to check out that book by Joe Dispenza!

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Lauren Barber's avatar

Thanks lovely, it is an evolving space for sure and I am landing gently into it! You are so right, we aspire for perfection but the reality of being a living being is that it simply isn't possible to sustain that. But then what are we judging 'perfect' on?? A totally unrealistic expectation perhaps and maybe we just need to be more accepting of our humanness instead of trying to be superhuman (which I think so many of these IG accounts are almost trying to depict). Interested to hear your thoughts on the Joe book... xxx

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